Stuck! In the name of love.

Recently, I had a long talk with a friend who has had quite troublesome past with personal relationships. She keeps repeating the same pattern where the other person leaves her empty and puzzled. Why do I fall for these people who just suck the life and energy out of me? she kept asking.

Inspired by the conversation, Diana Ross (though you may argue with my interpretation), and by the amazing series My Mad Fat Diary: http://www.imdb.com/title/tt2407574/, I decided, it is time to speak up.

Too many of us (including myself) are – at least sometimes – so infatuated by self-loath that we cannot even see it anymore. Whether it is about being good at your job, studies, hobbies, friendships, or personal relationships, we keep pushing ourselves to the ground.

"My boss just had a bad day and I was being annoying so it's understandable that he/she was acting like a dick."  

"Yeah I ran the marathon, but so does everyone else these days." 

"Of course I will help him/her even though I am tired, she/he really needs me!" 

"I will not call her/him, because I don't want him/her to feel anxious or pressured." 

"Yes, I like myself! (when I do something right and good...)"

STOP! Before you break my heart.

After the conversation, I realized that it is so damn hard to love yourself unconditionally. Especially in today's world, where knowing your worth is often regarded as being smug. Instead of feeling sufficient, we keep believing that taking care of everyone else is what makes us good. We believe that for good things to happen we have to earn them.

Baby, think it over. Think it over, baby.

Why don't we get unstuck together, starting right now. Repeat after me: I AM AWESOME, AND YOU KNOW IT TOO.